People look at Aspie teen and judge him by
A) his age
B) his height.
Aspie teen is tall for age so he's immediately judged to be older than he actually is.
He can hold mature, serious conversations with others.
He's able to hold himself together, with manners, in formal situations (98% of the time).
It's difficult to explain to those who have no inkling of ASD how a child might superficially appear to be on par with his/her peers but when it comes to the long haul some can't keep up or cope, no matter how much encouragement they're given, no matter how many therapies they get, no matter how much early intervention they attend.
We have to wait for the child to mature on their own before they're able to take the next step, sometimes.
Which is why so many with ASD have an uneven ability.
Aspie teen was 12 when he began university yet he wasn't mature enough to cope with something more appropriate for his age like drama class until this year.
He started lapidary classes at age 12, learning from experienced geologists and science teachers yet he wasn't able to concentrate on swimming lessons until this year.
He started Russian language school at 12, galloping along and learning the language quickly yet he couldn't cope with dancing lessons until this year.
He'd reached a new level last year but it didn't automatically include the level he's now reached this year.
Next year he may reach another level but we'll leave that up to him to attain ;)